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Saturday Afternoon, April 20, 2002
“Children should have adult relationship(s) and visit the peer relationships...not the other way around.”
I was just thinking about that and how I viewed that thought when I first heard it. I viewed that in a way that said, “I have to make sure my children have primarily adult relationships and not peer relationships.” However, TODAY when I reread that, it created a question in me that I am finding quite inspiring. The question was this: Do I carry myself in such a way that is making this possible and true in the lives of the children around me? Do I just “visit” the children? Or do I walk and live in such a way with them to make the above statement true? “Children primarily have adult relationship(s) and they visit the peer relationships...not the other way around.” I certainly can’t expect it to be left up to the children, especially the little ones! And I certainly know that it is not an issue of “time” and “numbers” (make sure that the children spend more time in minutes with adults than they do children, or make sure that they have more adult friends than peer friends).
Anyway, thinking through all that just really encouraged me to not “visit” the children, but to really be there for them. It was just a wonderful reminder to walk with them in such a way that it could be said... “Children primarily have adult relationship(s) and they visit the peer relationships...not the other way around.”