Different Responses to Insecurity

5/1/2023

QUIZ:

What is the NORMAL human response to being insecure about how someone feels about you or about your job or your situation or your children?

—To pull away

—Making excuses or “but they don’t XYZ about my situation” OR mentally putting them down

—Look for a “pacifier.”

—Would likely include hurt feeeeelings and hurt pride.

—To lash out, even if “silently” in the mind

—Internally: watching watching watching to see what they say or trying to read how they’re thinking
Externally: trying to “explain” anything that they could possibly have taken issue with
Often followed by increasing terror of putting myself back in those situations

—“Self-protection” of being increasingly closed up in oneself

—Working their flaws into the equation. “Well they are this way...” Using the mind trick of, “Well, I’m better than them in this other area.”

—Overcompensation

—And horizontal paranoia to keep the “peace” and not reap the bad fruit in myself and my children. Thinking my “good response” to correction is somehow noble and worth something :/

And what would the right response be when one is insecure?

—Embrace my Standing in the Blood AND to make genuine changes for things that actually need to change FOR Jesus, and not for perception management.

—Talk with Father and hide yourself in the Son

—“Put your hand in the hand of the Man who stilled the waters.”

—Look up! “Jesus, I’m yours. I love you.” His Grace is Enough, enough, enough to cover me... and His Spirit is enough to train me and change me. Then Move closer in to those relationships or situation, eager to be a learner. Looking to grow and help others grow—N+1.

—“Jesus I want to embrace anything that will help me grow more and more every day. Because I love you and I won’t be picky about how I feel or shrink back and look for another scenario to learn in that makes me feel more comfortable.”

—In rest, be thankful to have a key to live in His smile and trust that Abba will provide everything needed to get me to that place as I bury my life in Him :)