To Understand How to Care, Pay Attention to How God Treats Us

3/29/2026

Question: Sometimes I’ve wondered how much patience to have for someone, or what kind of behavior to be merciful towards, or when to give the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise...

But it just dawned on me. Of course! The answer is in how we’ve learned just about everything, if we are paying attention!

Answer: How does God treat me in the Spirit realm, in my soul, day-to-day? I’m sure if you pay attention, you would know this too. As many as are led by the Spirit experience Abba’s Sonship. “I do nothing I don’t see Father doing.” Though we aren’t great at that, as the Second Adam was perfect at, Jesus came to show us our Potential in Him—so it DOES mean something.

So, how does God treat us when we fail or sin or slip, “sins committed in ignorance” (1Tim 1:13, Lev. 5:17) or in “flesh” stupidity: weakness, temper, lust, fear, bitterness, deceit, laziness, complaining, pride, or vanity?

God doesn’t cut off opportunity or fellowship with us because of weakness or failure or stupidity, AS LONG AS we keep coming back to Him and loving truth and wanting change. How do you know this? Of course Scripture, but also the first paragraph of the Answer above.

There WAS no collected “Bible” for 100 years, but there were tens of thousands of people with the Holy Spirit living inside of them who knew this:

He “draws the line” when 1) we don’t want to love the truth or to change regardless of personal cost, or 2) when we intentionally or sloppily cut off communication with Him and ignore Him. Those are the two things that can’t be resolved with Him or ignored by Him, unless we Change them on purpose. Add to that, 3) denying Him without shame or repentance.

So, knowing this is how God responds to us, in our inner man, in order to be follower of God and Christ-like, I guess those are the three things that create true separation from God and from others, without repentance.

1) no love of Truth, not wanting Truth

2) no mutual communication

3) denying Him without love or conscience (Simon Peter’s result vs Judas’ result).

Mystery solved. That question is solved the way all mysteries are solved. What does God do with us, as our role model for Life and Love: Parenting, or leadership, or response to pressure or pain, or anything else? How did Jesus act, the adultery woman, Peter’s or Thomas’ or others’ sin, versus the “I’m better than you” publican or arrogant Pharisee? And how does God treat us in the inner man when we try to pray under any of those conditions, whether soft or hard, whether communicating openly or something else?

That’s the answer of how we should treat others. Softness is good. Hardness is bad. Communication is good. Lack of communication is bad. Covering is good, denial is bad.

There’s no true fellowship with God until those items are resolved properly, by walking in His ways rather than by our feelings or other strategies.

Therefore, that’s how we know where to, sadly, draw the line with others also.

Or NOT draw the line if those things are properly in place.